What To Do If Another Guy Hits On Your Girlfriend (and what not to do!) 🤷‍♂️

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I’m Steven Mark Ryan. This is What I Think I Know and today we’re talking about what to do when another guy hits on your girlfriend. Well the simple answer to this: DO NOTHING. All right, let’s get the caveats out of the way.

Yes, If your girlfriend is somebody that just cannot be assertive or she’s physically threatened–there’s danger– sure, intervene, protect. No problems. But 99% of the time there is no danger here and a huge mistake that most guys will make is another guy starts hitting on their girlfriend and they get defensive or aggressive or feel the need to overtly mark their territory.

You know, slap her on the ass ten times and like, make out with her the Millisecond that the guy enters the picture, just to say: “Hey, she’s mine.”. It’s like a dog pissing on a tree. It’s naff.

If a guy starts hitting on your girlfriend–you’re out somewhere–your first reaction should be like: “Damn, like, damn.” “She’s awesome. This guy will desires her as well. That’s great. I know she’s coming home with me” “So I’m not feeling threatened and hey,” “This guy’s got some balls” “Like, I’ve got some major, major, major respect for this dude.” “Having the courage to approach a girl in a situation where he didn’t know her” “Didn’t know her relationship status and was willing to have a go” “This is the kind of guy that’s confident and goes for what he wants.

Much respect my friend.” This is how you should react. If, on the other hand, You’re the kind of guy that gets really defensive Or angry or wants to beat the other guy up just for the fact that he’s hitting on your girlfriend: You sir, have some serious internal issues to deal with and I don’t say this lightly.https://www.huffpost.com/entry/7-things-everyone-should-understand-about-interracial-relationships_n_55c22c11e4b0f7f0bebb1b5d YOU have problems.

I’m Steven Mark Ryan. This is What I Think I Know and today we’re talking about what to do when another guy hits on your girlfriend. Well the simple answer to this: DO NOTHING. All right, let’s get the caveats out of the way.

Yes, If your girlfriend is somebody that just cannot be assertive or she’s physically threatened–there’s danger– sure, intervene, protect. No problems. But 99% of the time there is no danger here and a huge mistake that most guys will make is another guy starts hitting on their girlfriend and they get defensive or aggressive or feel the need to overtly mark their territory.

You know, slap her on the ass ten times and like, make out with her the Millisecond that the guy enters the picture, just to say: “Hey, she’s mine.”. It’s like a dog pissing on a tree. It’s naff.

If a guy starts hitting on your girlfriend–you’re out somewhere–your first reaction should be like: “Damn, like, damn.” “She’s awesome. This guy will desires her as well. That’s great. I know she’s coming home with me” “So I’m not feeling threatened and hey,” “This guy’s got some balls” “Like, I’ve got some major, major, major respect for this dude.” “Having the courage to approach a girl in a situation where he didn’t know her” “Didn’t know her relationship status and was willing to have a go” “This is the kind of guy that’s confident and goes for what he wants.

Much respect my friend.” This is how you should react. If, on the other hand, You’re the kind of guy that gets really defensive Or angry or wants to beat the other guy up just for the fact that he’s hitting on your girlfriend: You sir, have some serious internal issues to deal with and I don’t say this lightly. YOU have problems.

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You have deep insecurities. You don’t feel good enough. You feel threatened by another male entering your Partner’s life or you’re somebody that doesn’t have enough trust in your relationship that you’re concerned that the same kind of thing could happen again. There’s work that needs to be done internally.

You have an issue in your relationship or with your ability to trust or with your self-worth. Now there are cases when a woman doesn’t trust her man–because he’s been acting needy, insecure,– –feeling like he doesn’t deserve her etc– Where she’ll just go straight for the jugular and test this weakness to see what happens. In this case, women will put themselves sometimes in Situations where they’re intentionally testing that weakness–quite aggressively. They might grab a random guy at a bar and dance while their boyfriend is there or Mention all the guys that are hitting on her, asking her out–just to remind the guy “Hey, dude” “I’ve got options” “But I also just want to see how you react to this potential threat” “Because if you act like it seems you’re going to: insecure, needy, you want to get aggressive or violent–” “I’m out of here dude, cuz you’re not the man that I thought you were or the man that I need in my life.” Let’s recap.

Guys, if you’re ever out, whatever, and a guy starts hitting on your girlfriend You’ve just got to let it slide. Of course, if she’s threatened, super uncomfortable, etc, help out. Don’t be a jerk about it But you know, gently bring her back to a situation where she feels SAFE, COMFORTABLE and in control.

Aside from that Just let it slide man. You’re awesome. You’re fucking amazing.

Of course she’s coming home with you at the end of the night. You don’t need to feel threatened. Let her be free.

Let her talk to people. Let her make new friends. Okay? Relax, it’s okay.

You’re awesome. She knows that. There’s no problem.

You have to love in such a way That the other person feels free and part of this is allowing your partner to make her own Decisions. She can control the borders and the lines between appropriate and inappropriate Interactions with people of the opposite sex. You don’t need to be her police officer or her parent. I’m Steven Mark Ryan.

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